Recently in NY state it's become an issue of religious accommodation vs law, and citizen's rights.
More specifically, one city clerk who finds the issue of licensing marriages for same-sex couples to be against her religion, and she is unable to process them for that reason. Others in the office are able to handle them, but she refuses on religious grounds. She has to step down, or get canned for not doing everything her job requires.
The quandary seems to be is her religious belief being trampled by a state making a law regulating religion, and a job requiring her to violate her beliefs, or is the law allowing gays to marry, and their right to do so more important? How do you accommodate both in an environment where one side seems to look for any reason to make a fuss out of anything they can.
If it's one or the other, which would one choose? Seemingly, the Constitution protects one specifically, and infers a protection to the other as equal protection under the law.
I myself would not handle licensing same-sex marriage on spiritual grounds, but completely don't give a damn what anyone else wants to do with their.... er.... body parts. When their choices impact any aspect of my life, they loose, and I will do every legally possible step to make their life hell. I find I can easily accommodate others beliefs if left to my own, but will fight every inch of the way if "required" to, or find the other side trying to push their beliefs into my life.