axi Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 This big bulk of a paragraph is optional to read. The question is at the bottom.This is basically a problem where my one of my parents discourages the fact of smoking hookah, but to help you understand a little better, here is a little bit of background information about me. I am full asian. My mom cheated on my father and he passed away several years later. My mother and this new boyfriend have been together for about 8 years now. My mom is always open to new experiences although she has that usual asian mom type thing where she is sometimes very strict. Her new boyfriend is middle eastern and enjoys hookah with his buddies. Right now, you should be thinking that the boyfriend would be more lenient about the hookah situation since he does it too and he has friends who do it too right? WRONG! During this years 4th of July party that we always host at our house, one of my stepdad's friends bought a new hookah and brought it over. He knows that I have smoked hookah before (when I told him before, he just yelled at me). The hookah was set up outside at a table next to the pool. His friend and several others were enjoying the hookah. It had been about an hour since it was set up until I had been informed that it was there. I was shooting pool with a couple of my friends and my mom came up to me (she doesn't know that I have tried smoking hookah) and said, "Hey, theres a hookah pipe outside." "Really?", I responded. "Yeah," she said, "You should go try it out." I went outside and saw my stepdad sitting outside and my first thought in my head was "Oh crap, he is never going to let me go; right when I step outside, he is probably going to start telling me how it is bad for me and that I should not try it. I waited inside for about half an hour until he came in and into the bar area to have a couple drinks with his friends. I stepped outside and his friend, Kosko, was like, "Hey Quinn (my name), you should try this." I happily accepted the hose offered to me and had a bit of fun, when about ten minutes later, he suddenly appeared behind me and told me to go inside. I was pretty much awaiting a lecture later after the party was over.Okay, now that that story is over, my question is this: If I already have my mom convinced, how do I convince my stepdad that it is not that bad also? It seems that he would have been the more understanding out of the two, but that apparently was not the case.Thanks guys.P.S. After I convince him that it is not as bad at it seems for me, my next step would be to actually convince them to let me buy one, which is going to be hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scheetz Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 Um lets see here. 1: You really can not complain until you are of age to purchase it legally. If you are then there should be no argument here. 2: Tell your Stepfather to stop being a hypocrite. Again if you are of age there should be no issue. 3: If he is going to smoke and he says you cant then maybe you need to drop the "Then you cant either line." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny_D Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 Yer.Key point here. How old are you?If you are old enough, then the issues be resolved easily. If you are not then your going to be in trouble!IT's a parent legal responsibility to ensure your safety. If your not of age and they 'allow' you to partake of these things, then they are potentially liable for prosecution!Bare this in mind.JD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahwahoo2006 Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 What Scheetz and JD said.If you aren't of legal age for where ever you live, you are pretty much SOL. You have to live with your parents, and, where they can see you, you should probably follow their rules. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like you can "convince" your stepfather. Some people have ideas and you will not change them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HookahPrincess Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 well if you're an adult you can always just do things the "rebellious" way and tell them that you're old enough to make your own decisions and you're going to smoke hookah whether they like it or not, so they better get used to it. maybe over time he'll learn to just deal with it. if you're underage i'd say just do what they say until you're old enough to decide. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hookah hippie Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 You can always play the "your not my real father" card Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kae Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 QUOTE (hookah hippie @ Jul 10 2007, 10:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>You can always play the "your not my real father" cardEVIL! lolSeriously, don't do that. It'll just piss everyone off, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamesh2 Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 just smoke it in front of them openly. when he asks you what the hell you are doing, just deny it and tell him me must be seeing things. if he persists, threaten to call 911. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brownman18 Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 tell him you wanna be a hindu because you love the religion. as hes furious and angry and asks why, say u enjoy hindu traditions since he never lets you try any middle eastern ones.. and bam u should be puffing soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*HOT&SMOKING* Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 QUOTE (Kae @ Jul 10 2007, 09:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (hookah hippie @ Jul 10 2007, 10:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>You can always play the "your not my real father" cardEVIL! lolSeriously, don't do that. It'll just piss everyone off, lol.QUOTE (jamesh2 @ Jul 10 2007, 09:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>just smoke it in front of them openly. when he asks you what the hell you are doing, just deny it and tell him me must be seeing things. if he persists, threaten to call 911.YOU ARE ALL EVIL!!!!My way would be buy a hookah and a shotgun and if he askes why you are smoking,ask him back(while loading the shotgun) if he Reeeaaalllly does have a problem with it........HE HE HE *CHUCKLING*.....(JOKING)Now that I read that again it does sound quite evil...ups-H&S Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamesh2 Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 How to get your parents to let you smoke the G rated wayGet a group that consists of you and 9 of your friends. dress in black leather jackets, tight jeans, and white t-shirts. slick your hair back with grease (ahem) and sit outside working on an old shitty car smoking some hookah. when your dad comes out and is all like WTF you are all likeahem**snaps fingersthen you and your friends break into song to the tune of grease lightning, but change the lyrics to go into the benefits of smoking hookahthen kick him in the shinthis is sure fire Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny_D Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 QUOTE (jamesh2 @ Jul 10 2007, 08:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>How to get your parents to let you smoke the G rated wayGet a group that consists of you and 9 of your friends. dress in black leather jackets, tight jeans, and white t-shirts. slick your hair back with grease (ahem) and sit outside working on an old shitty car smoking some hookah. when your dad comes out and is all like WTF you are all likeahem**snaps fingersthen you and your friends break into song to the tune of grease lightning, but change the lyrics to go into the benefits of smoking hookahthen kick him in the shinthis is sure fireIt is quite possible that this is the most inspired piece of advice I have ever read. Period. Nice work man.JD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamesh2 Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 io aim to please Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Boss Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 My parents were exactly happy with when I bought my hookah, but since I bought it with my hard earned money they really couldn't do anything. My dad was more angry that I was "wasting my money" instead of buying a water pipe. My mom still dislikes it, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitey456789 Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 threaten to kill him in his sleep, or threaten to burn the house down...start pouring gasoline around the house till he gives in... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Boss Posted July 10, 2007 Share Posted July 10, 2007 (edited) QUOTE (whitey456789 @ Jul 10 2007, 03:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>threaten to kill him in his sleep, or threaten to burn the house down...start pouring gasoline around the house till he gives in...How long have you been off your medication? Edited July 11, 2007 by Big Boss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamesh2 Posted July 11, 2007 Share Posted July 11, 2007 (edited) QUOTE (whitey456789 @ Jul 10 2007, 03:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>threaten to kill him in his sleep, or threaten to burn the house down...start pouring gasoline around the house till he gives in...whitey, do you like... need to talk about your feelings and suff Edited July 11, 2007 by jamesh2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Foos Posted July 11, 2007 Share Posted July 11, 2007 (edited) I agree with Scheetz about your step father being a hypocrite.I would take all the advice given here and combine it and blow his mind!Or just smoke in secret. Edited July 11, 2007 by Foos Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
axi Posted July 14, 2007 Author Share Posted July 14, 2007 Yes, I am underage. I turn 16 in August. Should I just abandon this idea of getting a hookah or actually try some of your sly tactics? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny_D Posted July 14, 2007 Share Posted July 14, 2007 QUOTE (axi @ Jul 14 2007, 07:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Yes, I am underage. I turn 16 in August. Should I just abandon this idea of getting a hookah or actually try some of your sly tactics?Accept one fact - No Parent wants to see there child* smoking.Your only 15. Even if it is 'legal' at 16 they are not going to be impressed -or- happy.You can try and force a point, or accept (for now) there standpoint. Once you hit 20they are going to be much more accepting of your lifestyle choices.JD* I am still my mum's baby, even at 33. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sonthert Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I don't agree, in any case. I flunked out of high school. That being said, I don't want my son, whether he is blood or adopted, flunking out of high school. Its not hypocrisy. Hypocrisy between a parent and child doesn't exist, in my opinion. Rules are rules, we don't all follow the same set of rules in a house, its ludicrous to call it hypocrisy. If you look at smoking as a failure, like flunking out of high school, you wouldn't want your child to fail either. The psychological approach would involve understanding why he thinks it's inappropriate and approaching that. For instance "Smoking doesn't make somebody a bad person..."Also, address the possibility that he's mixing something else into his bowl...like hash or opium. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.cOLt.45. Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 Heres the thing i just turned 15 in june...i been smoking hookah for about a year or two. Im not addicted as I can easily take breaks without having urges to smoke. My mom was open to it due to the fact that she trusted me a bit mroe to make my decisions. My dad however doesnt see me as much as my mom so to him im still a little kid. Moral of the story. Act grown up and they might start to treat you a bit more grown up. My dad accepts now that i have poker night with my friends (small pot...we each put in about 3 euros) and that i drink and smoke hookah. Hes started to accept it because he realizes that i might be doing these thigns...but im not getting into trouble with the law or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quixote6942 Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 Here's something. On your B-Day (if 16 is the legal age to smoke in your state), light up the biggest, ugliest, STANKIEST cigar you can get your hands on, and let him get a good whiff. When he jumps you about that, tell him it's either the Hooka or the Stogies! (BTW, try not turning green when you smoke the stogie... it'll give your plan away)! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*HOT&SMOKING* Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 QUOTE (Big Boss @ Jul 10 2007, 11:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>My parents were exactly happy with when I bought my hookah, but since I bought it with my hard earned money they really couldn't do anything. My dad was more angry that I was "wasting my money" instead of buying a water pipe. My mom still dislikes it, though.Same here first time I asked my parents if they were cool with it,they were more worried about me wasting my money than smoking!!!But yes , in the end they don't really want their sons and daughters smoking!!!-H&S Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allia22 Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 Mine don't care as long as it isn't blocking the TV Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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