chromecarz00 Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 Long Long Long Long story short, I get wayyy too attached wayy too easily to friends. Girls especially. How do I stop? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joelhookah Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 Stop being a dumbass. There is no reason to rush into anything man. Why not have all your friends and let them come to you? You gotta kick back and enjoy yourself before you can fully enjoy someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ecaddiction Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 What he said. Be confident in yourself. Don't dwell on what people think of you. In the end none of that matters. People automatically pick up on confidence (especially girls), and it's definitely a good trait. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victim026 Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 You just have to stop caring, it's tough to do, but once you get it down it really helps when your able to drop people at the mere thought of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coplinb Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 I have to agree 100% with what everyone is saying, once you stop caring so much about what other people think and feel about you, it all falls into place. Life can be very worry free if you let it. Just sit back and enjoy the ride and everyone else will want to with you, including the ladies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaia.plateau Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 (edited) It strikes me that you probably don't have much in the way of personal identity or confidence... that's what leads you to seek these things from others. Your tendency to attach yourselves too intensely to others is just a symptom of this underlying dilemma. Figure out who you are, learn to love and be proud of that person, and these problems will disappear naturally.Emotionally detaching yourself from the people in your life, to the point where you can 'drop them' without caring, is only going to create more emotional problems for you. Similarly futile is the idea that humans are genuinely capable of 'not caring what other people think'- we're social beings at our core, and we largely identify ourselves by what we see reflected of us in others. It doesn't matter if you're Paris Hilton or Snake Plissken, it's in our very genetic makeup to care about what other people think; just don't let it consume you.Edit: if you figure out who you are, and it turns out that you're a wangsta or a neocon, please disregard the part about love and pride, and instead just suffocate yourself with a plastic bag. Edited October 8, 2008 by gaia.plateau Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chromecarz00 Posted October 8, 2008 Author Share Posted October 8, 2008 gaia. thanks for that last edit...made me laugh perhaps a bit of history will help this thread a bit...im known to my friends as one who helps with relationships and i never ask for help so this is a first...im told that i have a great and deep personality so thats not quite it...i think what it is that i dont have a lot going on in my life right now and im limited by money, home situation, etc so i get attached to that which gives me a bit of normalcy in my life...so assuming that its the problem, give me ideas on how to fill my life up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaia.plateau Posted October 8, 2008 Share Posted October 8, 2008 Alcoholism. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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