modisess Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 (edited) Just a thought, do you guys think it's possible to be/stay in a relationship where the two partners has no sexual tension/attraction at all towards each other?What I mean by this is that the two partners has a lot in common, personality wise, interests, and they have good conversation with each other. Only thing is, they just don't have any sexual attraction towards each other. Is this possible? Edited March 25, 2009 by modisess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bye bye now have fun Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 isnt that just being friends then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippo_Master Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 (edited) Hmm, you must have watched the latest Bones episode. Dr. Sweets just plays a psychologist on TV. Ohh, and how is that an intimate relationship? The point of connecting with a human on an intimate level is to procreate, the only way to do that is through intercourse, so what's the point of not having sex? Edited March 25, 2009 by Hippo_Master Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modisess Posted March 25, 2009 Author Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (GNUWorldOrder @ Mar 25 2009, 10:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>isnt that just being friends then?not really, i mean they are a couple, the feeling's there, but they just dont have sex with each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippo_Master Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (modisess @ Mar 25 2009, 12:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (GNUWorldOrder @ Mar 25 2009, 10:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>isnt that just being friends then?not really, i mean they are a couple, the feeling's there, but they just dont have sex with each other.Ohhhh are the Catholic... or just religious in general? (you know, the whole abstinence thing...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modisess Posted March 25, 2009 Author Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (Hippo_Master @ Mar 25 2009, 10:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (modisess @ Mar 25 2009, 12:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (GNUWorldOrder @ Mar 25 2009, 10:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>isnt that just being friends then?not really, i mean they are a couple, the feeling's there, but they just dont have sex with each other.Ohhhh are the Catholic... or just religious in general? (you know, the whole abstinence thing...)no no no, just no sexual attraction at all. no religion involved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippo_Master Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (modisess @ Mar 25 2009, 12:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (Hippo_Master @ Mar 25 2009, 10:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (modisess @ Mar 25 2009, 12:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (GNUWorldOrder @ Mar 25 2009, 10:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>isnt that just being friends then?not really, i mean they are a couple, the feeling's there, but they just dont have sex with each other.Ohhhh are the Catholic... or just religious in general? (you know, the whole abstinence thing...)no no no, just no sexual attraction at all. no religion involved.Do they kiss each other? If there's not sex, then it's not a "relationship" (intimate) it's just a relationship, as friends. If they hold hands, cuddle, have deep conversations til 5 in the morning - that's getting intimate, but not intimately sexual. Also, how can a couple not have any sexual attraction at all? Do they not find the other attractive, but enjoy each other's personalities instead? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuburbanSmoker Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 Seems like you would just be friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineout Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 i call that being friends, not a couple...i have plenty of people that i can talk to and relate to well but were not a couple, so no i dont think its possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bye bye now have fun Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 ive talked with friend till 4 and totally sober Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rani Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 The dynamics of interpersonal relationships is across the board from this extreme to that extreme. I believe it's possible if that's what the two people are feeling and are comfortable with feeling that way. Sounds like they both have the same feelings for each other. The problems happen when one person wants something the other just isn't feeling. And anyone who thinks intimacy is all about sex is, well........ a guy. And in this particular case that is not a compliment.'Rani Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bainard Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 Sounds like me and my ex-wife...key word here is ex. She makes a great friend but with no intimacy (let alone sex) a "relationship" is doomed in my experience... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indian_villager Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 Thats the friendzone.....been there too many times....can't figure out how to get out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuburbanSmoker Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (indian_villager @ Mar 25 2009, 03:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Thats the friendzone.....been there too many times....can't figure out how to get out.Only way is to step up, man up. it sux because alot of the time it doesnt go the way you want it to, however if you dont ever step up you have no chance what so ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cotsi95 Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (SuburbanSmoker @ Mar 25 2009, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>QUOTE (indian_villager @ Mar 25 2009, 03:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Thats the friendzone.....been there too many times....can't figure out how to get out.Only way is to step up, man up. it sux because alot of the time it doesnt go the way you want it to, however if you dont ever step up you have no chance what so ever.Or never get into it in the first place. If you like her dont let yourself be put in the friend zone in the first place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuburbanSmoker Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 haha that too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippo_Master Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 (edited) I can understand a woman's views on a relationship not involving sex.... but women want it just as bad as men, if not more. I wouldn't want a woman who just knows how to screw- it will be the same exact sex over and over and over, and the relationship has absolutely no depth. To say you "are in a relationship" and not gettin' down is like making coffee without the coffee beans- without the beans it's just hot water .You aren't dating/in a "relationship" unless you are sexing each other up... that's just how it works. Edited March 25, 2009 by Hippo_Master Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newjacksm Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 (edited) sex is important to relationship if there isn't any then like you said there is no attraction, then why is there a relationship? This would be friends.. If you just started dating a girl and you want to take your time with her then yes ok this is fine, but when the time comes talk about it and if she says she never ever wants too because shes not attracted to you...Dump her man that's so ridiculous no reason calling that girl your girlfriend. Edited March 25, 2009 by newjacksm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joytron Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 is one of them really ugly?thats the only way i could see that happening. i mean its hard enough to find someone who shares remotely the same interests in life and who doesnt want to kill me after spending six hours together, so if there is any general attractiveness im all over it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippo_Master Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (joytron @ Mar 25 2009, 04:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>is one of them really ugly?thats the only way i could see that happening. i mean its hard enough to find someone who shares remotely the same interests in life and who doesnt want to kill me after spending six hours together, so if there is any general attractiveness im all over itSeriously.. maybe they both are so ugly neither of them want to touch the other, but both are so nice they don't want to say or do anything to hurt the other's feelings. Aww so caring! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indian_villager Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 QUOTE (joytron @ Mar 25 2009, 06:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>is one of them really ugly?thats the only way i could see that happening. i mean its hard enough to find someone who shares remotely the same interests in life and who doesnt want to kill me after spending six hours together, so if there is any general attractiveness im all over itI am so I think that may be the trouble. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
An1m Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 If there is no sexual or physical attraction I can't see how these individuals can consider themselves in a romantic relationships. If there is nil desire for the other partner in either of them then they seem to be just close friends, if they are both asexual individuals this would make sense as a "relationship" but to my knowledge asexual people aren't too concerned with labeling themselves as in a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SimplexCoda Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 QUOTE (Hippo_Master @ Mar 25 2009, 11:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Hmm, you must have watched the latest Bones episode. Dr. Sweets just plays a psychologist on TV. Ohh, and how is that an intimate relationship? The point of connecting with a human on an intimate level is to procreate, the only way to do that is through intercourse, so what's the point of not having sex?I think your missing the bigger deffinition of Intimate.Its has multiple deffinitions, true: but only one involves sex. All the others make the word to mean knowing the person completely on an emotional term. Yes i think it is very possible to have that kind of relationship with out having sex.Notice i said with out having sex, not with out having attraction. I am attracted to all of my female friends on some level, but then i know them very intimately. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcane Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 friends, imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Canon Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 QUOTE (modisess @ Mar 26 2009, 03:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Just a thought, do you guys think it's possible to be/stay in a relationship where the two partners has no sexual tension/attraction at all towards each other?What I mean by this is that the two partners has a lot in common, personality wise, interests, and they have good conversation with each other. Only thing is, they just don't have any sexual attraction towards each other. Is this possible?sure, just get married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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