Explain To Parents

[Matchew]

So..my parents dont know that I hookah and I've always hid it in the house. I think I should just tell them about it. Do you guys know what I should explain to them what it is in a good way?? Edited September 6, 2009 by Matchew

[Amn_sinclair]

how bout "mom dad i smoke.... Not cigarettes though i smoke hookah, dont like it im sorry but im an adult and i am free to make my own decisons and this is something i enjoy and something i chose to do"

[supersubby]

"mom dad... I'm gay.


hah just kidding here smoke some hookah with me "

[Matchew]

"mom dad... I'm gay.


hah just kidding here smoke some hookah with me "

Haha good one

[Amn_sinclair]

"mom dad... I'm gay.


hah just kidding here smoke some hookah with me "

Way better then my idea... U have to make sure u have a camera to catch then looks on their daces during that akward silience part

[siksthscents]

So..my parents dont know that I hookah and I've always hid it in the house. I think I should just tell them about it. Do you guys know what I should explain to them what it is in a good way??

hey matchew,

Ah, i would have 2 say that it would depend on your relationship with your parents, as well as their personalities + beliefs. If you have a strong relationship with them i.e. have always been open and honest with them regarding your life (mebbe even personal life), then i would say yes, you might do well in telling them.
If they are the type of parents who "indulged" in the late 60's/early 70's (or sometime in their lives), then i would assume that they would prob be ok with it.
If these dont apply, then if I were you, i prob would not tell them. If you are feeling guilty about smoking inside the house, or "behind" their backs, then that is the def judgement call you need to make. Mebbe smoking somewhere else might be a nice alternative.
I'll tell you my personal experience between my parents and my hookah use...When i was in high school, and even when i was living with them after high school, they were not accepting of it, and they weren't ok with me doing it at all, especially in my room upstairs. They just treated it as if i were doing something illegal, and threw away/broke many a hookah of mine (2-3 i think). Of course, i was being irresponsible by not using a tray or s.th to protect the carpet, and i ended up burning some sizable circular-shaped holes into the white carpet, but that would have happened regardless of whether or not they allowed me to smoke in my room.
All in all, i think your conscience has guided you properly grasshoppa, and use your best judgement, since you are your parents offspring, and you will make the ultimate decision.
Good luck, cheers

[NIGHTS OF BAGHDAD]

all depends on how open minded they are..and if they are quick to judge..if they are the type that sits and listen to your side then do it..if not then i dont see why they need to know right now...maybe to test them find a movie where they are smoking hookahs and have them watch it with you..and then ask there opinion on it when they see it..

[Arcane]

be up front, be honest and bring facts.

if it were me and i still lived with my parents...i'd bring it out, disassemble it and lay out everything the hookah involves. explain to the that its tobacco that gets heated, the glycerin/nicotine gets vaporized and produces flavored "smoke". the water acts to cool the smoke and remove some carcinogens. it's like smoking a flavored cigarette, but without all the added chemicals and high level of carcinogens.

don't try to convince your parents, it's a healthy alternative to cigarettes. because, although i believe its better than cigarettes...it's still not healthy.

or if you're already living on your own...you can take my approach. set up your hookah, start smoking...and laugh when your parents freak out.

[srawas89]

Here is the thing they might see it as the same as smoking cigarettes. If they would kill you for smoking ciggs than telling them about your hookah may not be the best idea. Unless your parents are cultured and/or very open minded.

[Enjoivolcom]

How old are you? I hid my hookah in my truck and only smoked it at my house when they went out of town which was like once. I hate when my parents catch me with things because i hate when they think less of me. I wouldn't show them if your the same way. All depending on what type of parents you have though. I am moved out now and just made a big order so i can smoke all day in my new home. yes!

[kdkhookah]

I'd say be blunt and explain how it's not for NHT. Cause that's the first thing they are going to think and ask, as all do when they don't know about hookah. Other than that, it depends on how easy going your parents are.

[ryno]

I told my parents about it a few summers ago. A few times before I showed them, I mentioned I was going to smoke hookah and one time my mom asked what it was and my dad said "o he's going to smoke some shit." So after that I did what Arcane said, I brought it downstairs and showed my mom everything and explained it the best I could. She still doesnt like it, nor does my dad, but I can smoke in the garage or anywhere not inside the house. Just try to be as open and honest as you can

[Rani]

Why do you need to say anything? I'm thinking we're living in a world of "too much information" all around. What you choose to do privately should remain your private choice and shouldn't involve your parents or anyone else though if it's a non-smoking household I'd respect that within the house. If they should hear about it and ask, say yes, and leave it at that. Me thinks we all need to quit being so bloody honest about everything to everybody. It smacks of seeking approval or courting censure in an effort to conform.

'Rani

[Twisted]

Why do you need to say anything? I'm thinking we're living in a world of "too much information" all around. What you choose to do privately should remain your private choice and shouldn't involve your parents or anyone else though if it's a non-smoking household I'd respect that within the house. If they should hear about it and ask, say yes, and leave it at that. Me thinks we all need to quit being so bloody honest about everything to everybody. It smacks of seeking approval or courting censure in an effort to conform.

'Rani

Yes, but it is their house, they should know what is in their house. This is what I did, told the parent im closer to and then told the next.

[ColibriDon]

Just tell them, after they freak out, wait for them to calm down and then explain it to them. Explain what it really is and what it's really meant to be used with--they'll understand it. There are much worse things you could be doing, then offer it to them.

I've found it way too difficult to hide something from my parents so I would just tell them about any recurring hobbies I had if there was any chance they would find out. So much easier.

[mix_tape]

I just told my parents when I first bought mine at first they said no smoking in the house then they said it would be allowed from time to time since they don't smoke what so ever. I just explained to them what it was and how it had nothing to with NHT thhey thought other wise so I ended up showing them on the next some of the articles on them. They are fine and my mom finds them really "pretty". I think if your doing it at their house then they have every right to no. If your on your own then its up to you.

[ilikemyusername]

I remember when my hookah came out of the closet....
I knew my mom was coming over so I got a bowl going, thats all there was to it.

[foibled again]

Get a cheap one and hide it under your dad's side of the bed. If he gets in trouble, keep hiding yours.

[ilikemyusername]

Get a cheap one and hide it under your dad's side of the bed. If he gets in trouble, keep hiding yours.

+1

[JOE]

idk how i would bring something like that up if my parents were not cool with it. my mom is always telling me how i should go look at my grandpas hookah that he brought back from syria

[ngraz617]

Maybe show them some simple articles first showing the history of it and how it is part of so many cultures. Explain that it is not mind altering and as natural as tobacco can be when compared to cigarettes. And if it doesn't appear to be going well tell them you don't inhale.

[Arcane]

Why do you need to say anything? I'm thinking we're living in a world of "too much information" all around. What you choose to do privately should remain your private choice and shouldn't involve your parents or anyone else though if it's a non-smoking household I'd respect that within the house. If they should hear about it and ask, say yes, and leave it at that. Me thinks we all need to quit being so bloody honest about everything to everybody. It smacks of seeking approval or courting censure in an effort to conform.

'Rani

that's probably easier said if you're in a position where you don't need your parents to survive. since he is debating on whether or not to tell his parents, or even the best way to tell them...then he probably is still living at home without means to support himself.

so, being as it's not his place nor can he establish his own rules...i feel its very appropriate to tell the parents what's going on in THEIR house.

then again, i've noticed that my culture is bit a different than a lot of peoples culture. i'm not talking about this day and age, compared to when i was growing up...but, our actual culture. it seems nowadays, a lot of families let their kids talk back, argue, hide stuff, etc.

the way we were raised, we respected our elders. not just parents, but everyone older than you. my parents knew pretty much everything that happened in my life, half of it was because i told them...the other half was them being "involved" parents. heck, my mom knew when, the morning after, i got laid for the first time. when we went to our uncles or aunts house, we'd ask to use the bathroom, ask to get a drink out of the refrigerator, etc. even in our house, it was appropriate to ask our parents if we could get a snack and eat in front of the TV. we even asked permission to watch TV or use the computer. imo, its all about respect. as kids, we don't own ANYTHING in that house. we lived there rent free, we didn't pay utilities, or pitch in money for groceries. why not respect the people that are caring for you.

as a kid, did you you just leave to go play outside? or spend the night at a friends without checking in with your parents first?

its easy to see why a lot parents are concerned that their kids may not grow up to be respectable individuals...because those vaules and morals aren't instilled in them.

[alig_fmm]

"mom dad... I'm gay.


hah just kidding here smoke some hookah with me "

hahahahaha, i actually laughed out loud at this, for like 2 sec, then another 10 to myself

Get a cheap one and hide it under your dad's side of the bed. If he gets in trouble, keep hiding yours.

funny and a bit more practical and probably might work

[no longer welcome]

do your best to get them to join you in this hobby, show them and offer them, more people come around than not, smoking with the parents is good thing.

[dizzbizz]

do your best to get them to join you in this hobby, show them and offer them, more people come around than not, smoking with the parents is good thing.

Whenever my mom comes in the back yard while I'm smoking, I always offer. She declines most of the time, but sometimes she'll take a few hits. My parents didn't really freak out, Which was a surprise to me because my stepdad is pretty strict but my mom is the complete opposite. They just accepted it. I explained all the facts and what a hookah really is and that the "smoke" isn't microscopic particles of combusted tobacco or anything else. They were pretty understanding once I told them all this. Plus its more of a social thing than an independent hobby.