Explain To Parents

[Rani]

Why do you need to say anything? I'm thinking we're living in a world of "too much information" all around. What you choose to do privately should remain your private choice and shouldn't involve your parents or anyone else though if it's a non-smoking household I'd respect that within the house. If they should hear about it and ask, say yes, and leave it at that. Me thinks we all need to quit being so bloody honest about everything to everybody. It smacks of seeking approval or courting censure in an effort to conform.

'Rani

that's probably easier said if you're in a position where you don't need your parents to survive. since he is debating on whether or not to tell his parents, or even the best way to tell them...then he probably is still living at home without means to support himself.

so, being as it's not his place nor can he establish his own rules...i feel its very appropriate to tell the parents what's going on in THEIR house.

then again, i've noticed that my culture is bit a different than a lot of peoples culture. i'm not talking about this day and age, compared to when i was growing up...but, our actual culture. it seems nowadays, a lot of families let their kids talk back, argue, hide stuff, etc.

the way we were raised, we respected our elders. not just parents, but everyone older than you. my parents knew pretty much everything that happened in my life, half of it was because i told them...the other half was them being "involved" parents. heck, my mom knew when, the morning after, i got laid for the first time. when we went to our uncles or aunts house, we'd ask to use the bathroom, ask to get a drink out of the refrigerator, etc. even in our house, it was appropriate to ask our parents if we could get a snack and eat in front of the TV. we even asked permission to watch TV or use the computer. imo, its all about respect. as kids, we don't own ANYTHING in that house. we lived there rent free, we didn't pay utilities, or pitch in money for groceries. why not respect the people that are caring for you.

as a kid, did you you just leave to go play outside? or spend the night at a friends without checking in with your parents first?

its easy to see why a lot parents are concerned that their kids may not grow up to be respectable individuals...because those vaules and morals aren't instilled in them.

I say this as a parent. Once a child reaches 18, he or she is in charge of what they choose to do. I don't have the right to say yes or no to anything. I would expect him or her to repect my rules within my home, but their own room and what they store there is entirely up to them so long as it's nothing illegal for which I could be held accountable. I'm assuming he's 18 since he's on this forum. He should respect his parents rules by not smoking in their home if they're anti smoking, but I see no reason to disclose a completely legal hobby. He's not a child anymore. He's an adult and responsible for his own decisions and the reprecussions that result. I don't see going after permission to do anything (so long as it does not infringe on them - like smoking on the counch in front of them when they're anti-smoking) as reasonable for an adult.

'Rani

[Scalliwag]

do your best to get them to join you in this hobby, show them and offer them, more people come around than not, smoking with the parents is good thing.

if they're afraid this could lead to NHT, have them sign up on the forum and post something about NHT and see how fast they get banned Just kidding on trying that ut as a parent if I was not already familiar with the culture the forum endorses I would be pretty leary about it. A local hookah lounge woud be the best place to take them especially if you have one that serves mediterranian dishes and has a pretty tradional theme as well. Sorry, I haven't read the whole thread so some of the points may already be covered.

[redjako]

When I'm tired my mom says "SEE HOOKAH IS ROTTING YOUR BRAIN!"


I just explain its flavored tobacco, with about 1/100 of the shit from a ciggie.

If they protest, then I recall when I smoked ciggarettes for a year and how shitty I felt.

[Z2G]

I would ask them how they would feel about you smoking hookah. If they say they dont like it then I would do what your doing currently. If they say thats fine and they dont care then pull it out and ask if they would like to join...

[Scoop]

When I'm tired my mom says "SEE HOOKAH IS ROTTING YOUR BRAIN!"


I just explain its flavored tobacco, with about 1/100 of the shit from a ciggie.

If they protest, then I recall when I smoked ciggarettes for a year and how shitty I felt.

everytime i see my parents they say this. if i make any kind of mistake in their presence i get that too. i just roll my eyes rofl

[Capt. Morgan]

I mentioned going to hookah bars around my parents and didn't get much of reaction. They weren't thrilled but didn't get too mad. Finally got a hookah off of a friend of mine and they saw it when I went to a friend of mine's to go smoke. Ny dad was slightly interested but my mom wasn't too happy about it. She calmed down when I explained that it wasn't as bad a cigarette smoking and that it had got me to quit smoking cigs (which she didn't know I did). My dad doesn't really care and my mom still doesn't like it but I don't have to hide it.

[Sonthert]

"mom dad... I'm gay.


hah just kidding here smoke some hookah with me "

Oh, God!

Don't do that, sweetheart. Another joke like that will require some many and very serious surgeries to restore my manhood.

I would say, why worry about telling them. The real question is the secretiveness of sneaking around with it more inconvenient than telling them and having them throw heavy furniture at you.

[contristo]

my dad loves the hookah but my mom's iffy with it... whenever i visit my parents they're fine with me smoking with my friends outside, but she doesn't like me smoking it in the garage because she says it leaves an odor

they both understand it's just a social thing, my mom just has that mother-knows-best mentality in that she doesn't want to see her kids really smoke anything. but she knows i'm 20 and getting my stuff done well in school, so as long as i get my responsibilities done she doesn't care what i smoke

but yeah, i would show them the shisha (get a great smelling one and let them smell it, like mizo guava) and the hookah apparatus. if they don't like it then oh well, it's their house. bring it over to friends' with chill parents if they're not out of town and you want to smoke

[chinamon]

wow im glad i never had to explain that to my parents.
ever since my dad caught me smoking when i was 18 or 19 he has bitched at me every time i smell like smoke and whenever he sees my hookah but he knows he can't do shit about it... hell im almost 31 so fuck him. lol

[chinodos]

I was worried the first time I told my mom about my hookah smoking too. Mainly due to the fact that if she ever found out I smoked she would kill me before cancer. But she seemed cool with it. I had a party and invited her to it, and we had the hookah in the middle of the table. She kind of knew a bit about it, I think thats why she was cool with it. She even smoked a little with us, which was cool.