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I Think My Girlfriend Is Cheating On Me


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Sad thread, I know. I've never been cheated on before (that I know of) and my girlfriend, whom I've known for 6 years, has never given me a reason to believe that she would cheat on me, until last night.

Mods, please excuse my content for this thread. If it's too raw, please delete.

Last night, I wanted some sex, so I waited for my girl to fall asleep (she told me to get it after she fell asleep). I "prepared" myself, lubed up, and before I could get in the va j j, she says "no, put it in my ass". Yes, I know, the butt, the very special place of my fanstasy. I LOVE anal sex, it's the sex! But, I wanted some va j j. She always denies me butt, so I settle for va j j. But this time the tables were turned on me. It was weird, it shocked the hell outta me. Then it dawned on me, on Sat, I was chillin with my bro-ham (brother) at my dad's, after we left the hookah lounge, we returned to my dad's house, then I called her up. She said not to come home and I should chill out with my bro-ham. I love my girl, I want to be around her ALL THE FREAKIN TIME, but she advised me to stay at my dad's. She reasoned that I really don't see my brother often and that I should take the time to chill with him. As much as I love hangin with my bro-ham, I wanted to come home for cuddle time. She advised that I stay at my dad's. I stayed.

Then last night, she offered anal pleasure instead of va j j awesomeness. Yeah, I did her in the butt, but I still have lingering thoughts that she cheated. I have zero evidence, except for my logic and feelings. Am I wrong to even doubt our commitment to each other, or should I speak up and demand answers?

I have no one else to talk to about this situation, so I turn to my e-hookah family. Any wisdom will be much appreciated.

Dan
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tough situation to be in, your dammed if you do and you dammed if you dont..if you wana catch her in the act tell her your going out to a place like the theater a week in advance..tell her your taking her advice on spending some time with your brother and your going together..then leave the house a few hours early and just park around the corner and see if anyone comes in the house..if you stay in the apartment just look for someone you dont normally see walking in there cause im sure you know your tenants by now..and if you see a stranger walking in give it 5 minutes and then walk back in and say you forgot something..and dont say what it is..just check all over the place the phucker could be hiding..and make sure you lock the front door so he cant run out..if you find him..do what you please wink.gif
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I would do as NOB says.. Say your going out then check in on her.. Just change your routine up a bit.. Maybe something as simple as coming home early from work or class.. Or saying your with your Bro then all of a sudden come home..

Honestly though you have to look at your situation.. If you do this and find nothing, will you be satisfied she's faithful? Or will there always be that doubt.. It seems to me like this may become a neverending thing..

If you really in doubt I have a friend you can call.. His name is Joey

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QUOTE (delSol_si @ Nov 4 2009, 04:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I know it is off-topic, but I'd suggest not using the term "bro-ham" anymore, it might help. Also, I haven't had sex before, but just by thinking about it, I don't think fucking her while she is asleep is a good idea...

bro you may wana stop saying that has well..lol
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QUOTE (NIGHTS OF BAGHDAD @ Nov 4 2009, 02:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (delSol_si @ Nov 4 2009, 04:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I know it is off-topic, but I'd suggest not using the term "bro-ham" anymore, it might help. Also, I haven't had sex before, but just by thinking about it, I don't think fucking her while she is asleep is a good idea...

bro you may wana stop saying that has well..lol

point taken, i just put that part in there so he knows to take my advice with a grain of salt. heh
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Girl wading in here..... And having to use myself as an example. (Don't get silly guys, not that kind of any example.)

I have an iron clad rule. If I think I can't trust someone, then guess what. I can't trust them. They may or may not be cheating, but that's almost a side issue. There's something going on in the relationship generating problems with trust. Sure I could double check. I could check phones, email, drive by, check with their friends and do all the crap to get the evidence. But that's crazy behavior and I don't do crazy. Who I am is something I'm proud of. I'm precious and so is my time. If I can't trust someone, for whatever reason, it's not time to act crazy, it's time to move on. Trust is the keystone of a relationship, and if it's missing - just like any building, it's not going to stand the test of more time. So I'm not going to waste my precious time trying to hold it up. And before anyone says "Yeah, but I love him/her...." That's not an excuse or a reason to hang in there against what your better judgement is telling you. Go ahead and love them, but remember that just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be with them. Especially when that inner voice is telling you something is wrong.

The tough part is having the talk. It's not easy saying "I don't feel I can trust you, so I need to move on." But it wastes less of your time and theirs because they also deserve to be with someone who does trust them. They deserve happiness unclouded by mistrust. You both do. Better to admit it, and do what you need to do. In the long run I believe it's the more compassionate action because it's honest and real and gives you both the reality of a trusting relationship.

'Rani
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QUOTE (NIGHTS OF BAGHDAD @ Nov 4 2009, 04:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (camelflage @ Nov 4 2009, 05:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
dont date chicks, that way they cant cheat on you...

are you suggesting to go gay?..lol


nah, just saying its easier to find some chick thats DTF and let it ride than getting into some emotional commitment...
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QUOTE (NIGHTS OF BAGHDAD @ Nov 4 2009, 10:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (delSol_si @ Nov 4 2009, 04:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I know it is off-topic, but I'd suggest not using the term "bro-ham" anymore, it might help. Also, I haven't had sex before, but just by thinking about it, I don't think fucking her while she is asleep is a good idea...

bro you may wana stop saying that has well..lol


i lol'd....

if it were me, i would just try and talk to her about it. don't accuse her, because that's not going to end well no matter what. but, ask her...why she has different tendencies now? mention that before, the deucer was a no-no...but now she'd rather PIITB...

it may help you to understand her a little better...

and worse case scenario...and i'm just throwing it out there....she may suspect she's prego with yours (or someone else's baby) and doesn't want to get it mixed up...i know its probably going to drive you crazy, but i suspect thats why my ex-fiance wasn't sleeping with me the last 2 months we were together...

turns out she was prego when she left Korea....and had a miscarriage later on......karma, eh?
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QUOTE (Arcane @ Nov 4 2009, 04:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (NIGHTS OF BAGHDAD @ Nov 4 2009, 10:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (delSol_si @ Nov 4 2009, 04:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I know it is off-topic, but I'd suggest not using the term "bro-ham" anymore, it might help. Also, I haven't had sex before, but just by thinking about it, I don't think fucking her while she is asleep is a good idea...

bro you may wana stop saying that has well..lol


i lol'd....

if it were me, i would just try and talk to her about it. don't accuse her, because that's not going to end well no matter what. but, ask her...why she has different tendencies now? mention that before, the deucer was a no-no...but now she'd rather PIITB...

it may help you to understand her a little better...

and worse case scenario...and i'm just throwing it out there....she may suspect she's prego with yours (or someone else's baby) and doesn't want to get it mixed up...i know its probably going to drive you crazy, but i suspect thats why my ex-fiance wasn't sleeping with me the last 2 months we were together...

turns out she was prego when she left Korea....and had a miscarriage later on......karma, eh?


IN KOREA???? Of all the places...
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