So My Ex Gf And Ex Best Friend Are Going Out...

[demonix]

We broke up 5 weeks ago over me using her for sex once and she went apeshit, which she is more than entitled to for me being such a heartless asshole...

My ex best friend who said nothing was going on between himself and her a couple months before we broke up, was not at all truthful and nor was she.
He even told Phantastik/Scott that nothing would ever go on between them and look at this now... They're going out.

There's some real irony in her going out with him over the reason why we broke up, which I find pretty funny

I'll post what I posted on another forum

My Ex keeps trying to play games with my head and a month after we broke up after a 14 month relationship she's already with another guy... Initially I had a huge rage of anger and I was already on edge because of crap already going on in my life and it pushed me over the edge and I had a breakdown...
Scott and another friend came over at like 2:30am and we went for a walk to help me get my mind off it and crap...
Now today she posted a blog about how I hurt her and that's why we ended and that her new bf is all my fault and I shouldn't have the right to be mad or anything.
I instantly realized what an insane cunt, bitch, prick, self-centered asshole, and overall shit she really is and couldn't be happier that we broke up.
I've done nothing but try to be nice to her and try to reduce the damage I did but she's just let her self-righteous mind get the best of her...
Ever since we broke up she has been an asshole to all of our mutual friends, thus them all putting her out of their lives too and she is mad about them not paying her feelings, let alone her any mind anymore...
I hope I never get in a relationship with another woman like this...

Those know don't know, I'm a photographer and I went shooting for 3 hours today and it completely soothed and relaxed me more than hookah does... It's the happiest I've been in months and I was literately freezing my ass off... took me an hour after I got home to be able to feel my hands again + I had my heat on my car on max and full force on my drive home... Still the happiest I've been in months without a doubt.

I've had a horrible past year... I'm glad I've finally had a few hours of true happiness.

"

Another "friend" go this to her and she went and played her cards and revealed who her new boyfriend was...

So... I'm really heated up...
My suspicions were correct and I was more than right to be paranoid.

My situation isn't near as bad as Jay's is/was... but still... I feel pretty betrayed but at the same time I honestly don't really care anymore

[delSol_si]

Dude, i have kinda been in the same situation, except i was in Scotts position, kinda. Several several years ago in my less than great time of life, I decided to mess around with one of my good friends girls only a couple weeks after they broke up. They were still living together, and I came over to pick her up, she got in my car and we started messing around, she got topless and he came out and caught us. No sex or anything like that. I was fully clothed and the only thing she was missing was her shirt and bra. But ya, he was steamed like all get out. I should have gotten my ass kicked.


A few weeks later, me and that girl went separate ways, and my friend and I worked things out. Me and my buddy got back to being friends, but not so much with the girl, she went off and fucked another guy and so on and so forth.


The point I'm trying to get at is as shitty as a move that was on Scott's part, I don't think them two will work out. And when they do break up, I think you and Scott should try to iron out the details and get to being buds again. Bros before hoes man, and never mess with another friend's girl...past or present.

Ya, shit sucks, life's a bitch, but at least you found an outlet to let out your anger. Just don't let it get down on you too much, I can't believe IM saying this, but there are more things in life than women. Especially one that is being a bitch to you. Keep your cool man, don't do anything you might regret later. Sometimes when I am feeling down about a girl, this song cheers me up http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dSJxvi767kQ it's Ben Fold's version of Dr. Dre's song, or the other way around dunno. And that is not meant as a joke by any means, I am totally serious.

I'm not sure what your religious stand point is, but I firmly believe God puts people in our lives to bless us, and takes people out of our lives to protect us. God might just be protecting you by taking her out of your life.

[demonix]

no, no, no
Scott isn't the one who is going out with her, it's another guy. Scott's always had my back and still has it to date.

[demonix]

I'm not sure what your religious stand point is, but I firmly believe God puts people in our lives to bless us, and takes people out of our lives to protect us. God might just be protecting you by taking her out of your life.

I'd like to point out I'm Atheist, just throwing that out there, have been since the age of 10 when I saw my best friend go through Chemotherapy when he was diagnosed with Cancer for the second time at the age of 11... He got it when were were in 4th grade...
Passed away the day of Xmas 8 years ago... Ever since then... I've become a strong Atheist.
I'm sorry, but that's the path I've chosen and don't plan to change it. I've had too many people try to push their religion on me in the past because they don't agree with my choice...
Anyways.
To make things clear, Phantastik/Scott is NOT the one who is going out with my ex

[delSol_si]

I'm not sure what your religious stand point is, but I firmly believe God puts people in our lives to bless us, and takes people out of our lives to protect us. God might just be protecting you by taking her out of your life.

I'd like to point out I'm Atheist, just throwing that out there, have been since the age of 10 when I saw my best friend go through Chemotherapy when he was diagnosed with Cancer for the second time at the age of 11... He got it when were were in 4th grade...
Passed away the day of Xmas 8 years ago... Ever since then... I've become a strong Atheist.
I'm sorry, but that's the path I've chosen and don't plan to change it. I've had too many people try to push their religion on me in the past because they don't agree with my choice...
Anyways.
To make things clear, Phantastik/Scott is NOT the one who is going out with my ex

ahh, i misread that, but still, the point stands, I'd try to patch up the friendship with whoever it was.


I'm not going to go into a religious spiel here because thats not what this thread is about, plus I don't want to seem pushy, but I would like to say one thing...I personally don't feel like it is a good idea to base your entire belief system on that one event. Ya, that must have sucked majorly, but thats not something I would be willing to use to base my entire belief system on. Read the story of Job and you should understand my reasons for saying that.

[demonix]

I've had a lot more go on, a lot of stuff I don't like to talk about
Believe me, I have my reasons and speculations

[destructo]

all i have to say is fuck bitches. i just walked 15 minutes almost to the bar then got stood up and walked back and got a call that shes not leaving. needless to say i voiced my opinion.

players haters club HATE HATE HATE!

[NIGHTS OF BAGHDAD]

its phucked up but the best thing you can do is say screw it and move on..cause they are together happy and if you sit there and harp on it your just gona aggravate yourself..so just put it behind you and move on to better things..karma will take care of them..trust me.

[demonix]

I just texted him asking if they fooled around behind my back and he got mad and offended lol
I'm letting it get to me too much I feel like

[TheScotsman]

Not to sound like an unfeeling ass, but put a fork in it, it's done - time to move on.

No point in walking around all depressed, pissed, hurt, or wasting another moment of life on the whole mess. Why worry/think about it any further? what, you want her back after that? I should think not! Would you ever call that dud a friend again? No point in giving her/him/them any more brain time, because when you do, they win.

The funny part, at least from what I have seen over the years, people that pull crap like that just have that same crap pulled on them later, and the circle continues. You don't want to be part of that, life is too short for it. Go find some of those magazine subscript cards in the magazines at the adult bookstore, and sign him up for a few "bill me later" gay porn mags, and call it a day

[joytron]

Not to sound like an unfeeling ass, but put a fork in it, it's done - time to move on.

No point in walking around all depressed, pissed, hurt, or wasting another moment of life on the whole mess. Why worry/think about it any further? what, you want her back after that? I should think not! Would you ever call that dud a friend again? No point in giving her/him/them any more brain time, because when you do, they win.

The funny part, at least from what I have seen over the years, people that pull crap like that just have that same crap pulled on them later, and the circle continues. You don't want to be part of that, life is too short for it. Go find some of those magazine subscript cards in the magazines at the adult bookstore, and sign him up for a few "bill me later" gay porn mags, and call it a day

Some great advice, I cant believe I totally agree with you. Holding on to a hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone, only you will get burned. Hope you vent this out and are able to move on. I say good riddance if they acted that way be glad to be rid of them, they will never find happiness.

[demonix]

I'm getting myself over it fairly quick already it feels like, little bits are all that remains.
I've already removed all things that remind me of them and I'm moving on.

[Chreees]

I feel for ya, Scarlett. Sorry all that happened to you. Hopefully it'll all be out of your mind soon so you can say "I got 99 problems, but a bitch ain't one."

[demonix]

one of my friend's who went out with her like 4 years ago, I made sure it was okay with him before I asked her out, started this group on Facebook
http://www.facebook.com/pages/getting-with...7512355?created
Everyone I know is raged about the whole ordeal and they're all trying to show their support for me and how fucked up it is
Feel free to add me on Facebook if you're one of my Chat buddies

If the mods feel that the link is a bit too much, feel free to remove this post, I'm not trying to cause any trouble for the forum

[cotsi95]

one of my friend's who went out with her like 4 years ago, I made sure it was okay with him before I asked her out, started this group on Facebook
http://www.facebook.com/pages/getting-with...7512355?created
Everyone I know is raged about the whole ordeal and they're all trying to show their support for me and how fucked up it is
Feel free to add me on Facebook if you're one of my Chat buddies

If the mods feel that the link is a bit too much, feel free to remove this post, I'm not trying to cause any trouble for the forum

Im sorry that this happened cuz it sucks! But its kinda funny you named the group "getting with your best friends ex" because the only way to spread the page is if you click on "Become a fan, of getting with your best friends ex". LOL seems counter productive.....

[Arcane]

sorry man...i'm a supportive of fighting....soooo, yeah...that's my suggestion...

[demonix]

They've both dismissed me from their lives and sent me angry texts this morning blaming me for this and telling me that's it's not fair to her or him to be persecuted by everyone for this.

I am completely over it all and I'm no longer having a role in the conflict, my friends are basically expressing their feelings to them personally via proxy basically like text and Facebook. It's good to know you have friends that care about you, I'm honestly really happy with this event. It has taught me I really can't trust anyone in life it seems, with few exceptions.

[Codename067]

Don't dwell on the past. It's nothing but headache.

[KyleTheJustin]

You'll be alright, mate. Just remember that you can always do better, man! Best way to get over someone=get rid of EVERYTHING that has any connection the them, unless it's, like, children, or something.

Stand strong, man! You'll find better.

[Voski]

Go bone someone else just forget about her. If your friend was really that close to you the wounds will heal over time don't worry about it right now.

[demonix]

I really appreciate the support from you all, it's beyond appreciated.

You'll be alright, mate. Just remember that you can always do better, man! Best way to get over someone=get rid of EVERYTHING that has any connection the them, unless it's, like, children, or something.

Stand strong, man! You'll find better.

Way ahead of you, already removed pics of me and her and crap and everything she left behind at my place.
I'm more than ready to move on and crap. Trying to forget all the crap I was dealt.

Go bone someone else just forget about her. If your friend was really that close to you the wounds will heal over time don't worry about it right now.

Hahaha!
I just need someone to make me happy right now, can't ask for anything more right now.
Whether it's good friends or another girl, either way I'll be happy.

[bellaxovita]

We broke up 5 weeks ago over me using her for sex once and she went apeshit, which she is more than entitled to for me being such a heartless asshole...

My ex best friend who said nothing was going on between himself and her a couple months before we broke up, was not at all truthful and nor was she.
He even told Phantastik/Scott that nothing would ever go on between them and look at this now... They're going out.

There's some real irony in her going out with him over the reason why we broke up, which I find pretty funny

I'll post what I posted on another forum

My Ex keeps trying to play games with my head and a month after we broke up after a 14 month relationship she's already with another guy... Initially I had a huge rage of anger and I was already on edge because of crap already going on in my life and it pushed me over the edge and I had a breakdown...
Scott and another friend came over at like 2:30am and we went for a walk to help me get my mind off it and crap...
Now today she posted a blog about how I hurt her and that's why we ended and that her new bf is all my fault and I shouldn't have the right to be mad or anything.
I instantly realized what an insane cunt, bitch, prick, self-centered asshole, and overall shit she really is and couldn't be happier that we broke up.
I've done nothing but try to be nice to her and try to reduce the damage I did but she's just let her self-righteous mind get the best of her...
Ever since we broke up she has been an asshole to all of our mutual friends, thus them all putting her out of their lives too and she is mad about them not paying her feelings, let alone her any mind anymore...
I hope I never get in a relationship with another woman like this...

Those know don't know, I'm a photographer and I went shooting for 3 hours today and it completely soothed and relaxed me more than hookah does... It's the happiest I've been in months and I was literately freezing my ass off... took me an hour after I got home to be able to feel my hands again + I had my heat on my car on max and full force on my drive home... Still the happiest I've been in months without a doubt.

I've had a horrible past year... I'm glad I've finally had a few hours of true happiness.

"

Another "friend" go this to her and she went and played her cards and revealed who her new boyfriend was...

So... I'm really heated up...
My suspicions were correct and I was more than right to be paranoid.

My situation isn't near as bad as Jay's is/was... but still... I feel pretty betrayed but at the same time I honestly don't really care anymore

To be completely honest with you heres how i see this situation...maybe yours is a bit different but i see this all the time.

You have three options to get the ball rolling:
A.) Good friend has a crush on your new girlfriend from day one...already has it in his head he's gonna get that after you...or perhaps even steal her from you.
B.) Girls are dirty. They know what will get you in the balls without even touching them. Maybe she feels like if she starts hooking up with your best friend it will make you mad and want to change to get her back.
C.) Good friend does a little number that we like to call "Camping out". It's very common almost ever dude i've ever met has played this game...maybe not with his best friend but with a friend none the less. Camping out consists of watching you fuck up...and being there for your girlfriend. Behind your back perhaps? Maybe right in front of your face. Guys love it when girls are friends with and get along with their friends...so they sometimes don't really think about it when their friend texts their girlfriend...and says something like "hey what are you guys up to?" and she replies "Well he's being a dick and i don't know what to do anymore." and that turns into "Oh man. i'm really sorry to hear that...what is he doing?" Camping out is basically your buddy watching you fuck up waiting for the perfect moment and then sneaking right in on your shit making sure he doesn't fuck up like you did. [very common.]

From there everything just escalates. Things happen before you know it they are together...or hooking up...or both behind your back.

My advice to you is drop these two like a bad habit. Nothing good will come from you and this girl because now neither one of you has trust for each other. Trust being the most important thing to make a relationship work. And nothing will ever make your friendship better because again it's based on trust and you'll always be worried he's boning your girl behind your back.

Drop em. Forget they exsist and move on with your life. You don't want to pollute your life with shitty people.

[demonix]

We broke up 5 weeks ago over me using her for sex once and she went apeshit, which she is more than entitled to for me being such a heartless asshole...

My ex best friend who said nothing was going on between himself and her a couple months before we broke up, was not at all truthful and nor was she.
He even told Phantastik/Scott that nothing would ever go on between them and look at this now... They're going out.

There's some real irony in her going out with him over the reason why we broke up, which I find pretty funny

I'll post what I posted on another forum

My Ex keeps trying to play games with my head and a month after we broke up after a 14 month relationship she's already with another guy... Initially I had a huge rage of anger and I was already on edge because of crap already going on in my life and it pushed me over the edge and I had a breakdown...
Scott and another friend came over at like 2:30am and we went for a walk to help me get my mind off it and crap...
Now today she posted a blog about how I hurt her and that's why we ended and that her new bf is all my fault and I shouldn't have the right to be mad or anything.
I instantly realized what an insane cunt, bitch, prick, self-centered asshole, and overall shit she really is and couldn't be happier that we broke up.
I've done nothing but try to be nice to her and try to reduce the damage I did but she's just let her self-righteous mind get the best of her...
Ever since we broke up she has been an asshole to all of our mutual friends, thus them all putting her out of their lives too and she is mad about them not paying her feelings, let alone her any mind anymore...
I hope I never get in a relationship with another woman like this...

Those know don't know, I'm a photographer and I went shooting for 3 hours today and it completely soothed and relaxed me more than hookah does... It's the happiest I've been in months and I was literately freezing my ass off... took me an hour after I got home to be able to feel my hands again + I had my heat on my car on max and full force on my drive home... Still the happiest I've been in months without a doubt.

I've had a horrible past year... I'm glad I've finally had a few hours of true happiness.

"

Another "friend" go this to her and she went and played her cards and revealed who her new boyfriend was...

So... I'm really heated up...
My suspicions were correct and I was more than right to be paranoid.

My situation isn't near as bad as Jay's is/was... but still... I feel pretty betrayed but at the same time I honestly don't really care anymore

To be completely honest with you heres how i see this situation...maybe yours is a bit different but i see this all the time.

You have three options to get the ball rolling:
A.) Good friend has a crush on your new girlfriend from day one...already has it in his head he's gonna get that after you...or perhaps even steal her from you.
B.) Girls are dirty. They know what will get you in the balls without even touching them. Maybe she feels like if she starts hooking up with your best friend it will make you mad and want to change to get her back.
C.) Good friend does a little number that we like to call "Camping out". It's very common almost ever dude i've ever met has played this game...maybe not with his best friend but with a friend none the less. Camping out consists of watching you fuck up...and being there for your girlfriend. Behind your back perhaps? Maybe right in front of your face. Guys love it when girls are friends with and get along with their friends...so they sometimes don't really think about it when their friend texts their girlfriend...and says something like "hey what are you guys up to?" and she replies "Well he's being a dick and i don't know what to do anymore." and that turns into "Oh man. i'm really sorry to hear that...what is he doing?" Camping out is basically your buddy watching you fuck up waiting for the perfect moment and then sneaking right in on your shit making sure he doesn't fuck up like you did. [very common.]

From there everything just escalates. Things happen before you know it they are together...or hooking up...or both behind your back.

My advice to you is drop these two like a bad habit. Nothing good will come from you and this girl because now neither one of you has trust for each other. Trust being the most important thing to make a relationship work. And nothing will ever make your friendship better because again it's based on trust and you'll always be worried he's boning your girl behind your back.

Drop em. Forget they exsist and move on with your life. You don't want to pollute your life with shitty people.

That's basically the best advice I've received about anything ever.. A, B, & C all sound like what happened from my understanding >_>

Funny, I have a friend who bitches about her boyfriend like that to me and I think nothing of it.

[bellaxovita]

We broke up 5 weeks ago over me using her for sex once and she went apeshit, which she is more than entitled to for me being such a heartless asshole...

My ex best friend who said nothing was going on between himself and her a couple months before we broke up, was not at all truthful and nor was she.
He even told Phantastik/Scott that nothing would ever go on between them and look at this now... They're going out.

There's some real irony in her going out with him over the reason why we broke up, which I find pretty funny

I'll post what I posted on another forum

My Ex keeps trying to play games with my head and a month after we broke up after a 14 month relationship she's already with another guy... Initially I had a huge rage of anger and I was already on edge because of crap already going on in my life and it pushed me over the edge and I had a breakdown...
Scott and another friend came over at like 2:30am and we went for a walk to help me get my mind off it and crap...
Now today she posted a blog about how I hurt her and that's why we ended and that her new bf is all my fault and I shouldn't have the right to be mad or anything.
I instantly realized what an insane cunt, bitch, prick, self-centered asshole, and overall shit she really is and couldn't be happier that we broke up.
I've done nothing but try to be nice to her and try to reduce the damage I did but she's just let her self-righteous mind get the best of her...
Ever since we broke up she has been an asshole to all of our mutual friends, thus them all putting her out of their lives too and she is mad about them not paying her feelings, let alone her any mind anymore...
I hope I never get in a relationship with another woman like this...

Those know don't know, I'm a photographer and I went shooting for 3 hours today and it completely soothed and relaxed me more than hookah does... It's the happiest I've been in months and I was literately freezing my ass off... took me an hour after I got home to be able to feel my hands again + I had my heat on my car on max and full force on my drive home... Still the happiest I've been in months without a doubt.

I've had a horrible past year... I'm glad I've finally had a few hours of true happiness.

"

Another "friend" go this to her and she went and played her cards and revealed who her new boyfriend was...

So... I'm really heated up...
My suspicions were correct and I was more than right to be paranoid.

My situation isn't near as bad as Jay's is/was... but still... I feel pretty betrayed but at the same time I honestly don't really care anymore

To be completely honest with you heres how i see this situation...maybe yours is a bit different but i see this all the time.

You have three options to get the ball rolling:
A.) Good friend has a crush on your new girlfriend from day one...already has it in his head he's gonna get that after you...or perhaps even steal her from you.
B.) Girls are dirty. They know what will get you in the balls without even touching them. Maybe she feels like if she starts hooking up with your best friend it will make you mad and want to change to get her back.
C.) Good friend does a little number that we like to call "Camping out". It's very common almost ever dude i've ever met has played this game...maybe not with his best friend but with a friend none the less. Camping out consists of watching you fuck up...and being there for your girlfriend. Behind your back perhaps? Maybe right in front of your face. Guys love it when girls are friends with and get along with their friends...so they sometimes don't really think about it when their friend texts their girlfriend...and says something like "hey what are you guys up to?" and she replies "Well he's being a dick and i don't know what to do anymore." and that turns into "Oh man. i'm really sorry to hear that...what is he doing?" Camping out is basically your buddy watching you fuck up waiting for the perfect moment and then sneaking right in on your shit making sure he doesn't fuck up like you did. [very common.]

From there everything just escalates. Things happen before you know it they are together...or hooking up...or both behind your back.

My advice to you is drop these two like a bad habit. Nothing good will come from you and this girl because now neither one of you has trust for each other. Trust being the most important thing to make a relationship work. And nothing will ever make your friendship better because again it's based on trust and you'll always be worried he's boning your girl behind your back.

Drop em. Forget they exsist and move on with your life. You don't want to pollute your life with shitty people.

That's basically the best advice I've received about anything ever.. A, B, & C all sound like what happened from my understanding >_>

Funny, I have a friend who bitches about her boyfriend like that to me and I think nothing of it.

hahaha it only works if you were friends with her boyfriend before her lol. and if you wanna get with her haha. but she probably just feels safe talking to you and getting advice from you because she trusts you.

[demonix]

Don't know her boyfriend.
I have no interest in her really, she's just a friend