Customary?

[Hippster]

So I'm relatively new to Hookah, I don't have my own hookah or anything, but my neighbor does, and he invites me over and we'll have a few beers and smoke some hookah. Sometimes I'll bring the beer, and sometimes he will, but I still feel a little bit bad because whenever I come over we'll smoke two or three bowls of his hookah.

So the question I pose unto you guys[and gals] is this; The next time I go over, should I give him a few bucks for sharing his hookah with me, so he can go buy more? I really don't like feeling like a mooch, and whenever I offer to give him some money, he says no, that it's all good, but I'd still like to give him some. Should I just take some and leave it on his desk when I go next? Or should I just listen to him and not give him some money?

[Hassouni]

I think it'd be fair if he supplies the smokes, you the drinks

[vendetta_revived]

I second that, and if he doesn't agree, then may be you can order some shisha and take it there with you and give it to him, I mean you would already know what you two enjoy smoking.

I can also see this from his point of view though, I am the only one out of my friends in whose house hookah is allowed, so I invite them over on weekends, and sometimes even a few times a week if both parties have the time, I use my own shisha, and I set up the bowls to their preference and manage heat and everything, and it has never really occurred to me that they should contribute towards my stash or they should be the ones who bring the beer over. They are my pals and it's just like any other thing I'd do for em, I mean I go over to there places too and have some beers...and they do the same with me.

They do a lot of the times ask me if I am running low on any tobacco and if they should pick some stuff like baccy or coals on their way over (since the shop I go to is in their neighbourhood), and they do bring over the beer 7 out of 10 times without there being any discussion about it, and it does feel nice I'd say.

[Hassouni]

Really, one bowl is cheaper than a six-pack...I mean the prices I get, 250g = 6 beers, and you're definitely not smoking 250g in one go

[Hippster]

[quote name='Hassouni' timestamp='1307030990' post='511445']
Really, one bowl is cheaper than a six-pack...I mean the prices I get, 250g = 6 beers, and you're definitely not smoking 250g in one go
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Especially in Germany... Alcohol is dirt cheap.

Alright peeps, thank you.

[Arcane]

[quote name='Hippster' timestamp='1307027268' post='511437']
whenever I offer to give him some money,[b] he says no[/b], that it's all good, but I'd still like to give him some. [u]Should I just take some and leave it on his desk when I go next?[/u] Or should I just listen to him and not give him some money?
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I would highly recommend that you not leave money. If he said no, he probably means it. If you leave money, it may insult him or somehow offend him. I know I'd be a little like "wtf?", if someone left money after I told them I didn't need/want it.

I do agree that you should at least bring something, drinks, food, entertainment, etc. Edited June 2, 2011 by Arcane

[Chreees]

Agreed with the above... you bring the drinks. Another reason you should just bring the drinks is he may not like the shisha you buy and bring over.

[Coyote]

You could also bring some snacks... or when you are by the place to get tobacco ask him if he wants you to pick up some shisha or coals.

[antouwan]

i would say as long as you bring the drinks pretty frequently, or a tub of tobacco every now and then you'd be good. as long as you're doing SOMETHING, then you aren't a mooch. hell, just offering him the money shows that you aren't a mooch.

i'm the same, way - i wouldn't take money from my friends for tobacco and what not, but i wouldn't complain if they brought over drinks or some tobacco that even they liked more than i did. i would appreciate it if some of my friends even offered those things. the last time my friend offered me money or anything was more than a year ago. like i said, i wouldn't take it - but the offer was at least nice.