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What are y'alls feelings on meeting people online from dating sites?
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Do it. I have friends that have married from meeting online, I have friends that use it frequently with great luck. Cant hurt, right? I mean...unless you end up in a rape-well, rubbing lotion on your skin. Other than that, cant hurt, right?
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It's getting less and less of a taboo, personally I don't have any problem with it. AND you're not obligated to choose someone.
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I just think it's weird that when people ask "where'd you meet him/her" that I say, online...sounds so...strange to me I don't have a problem with it but I think other people do....I care too much what other people think...but I mean it's no different than a bar or something in the end?
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My wife and I met online, back before dating sites really took off. It wasn't a dating site, but when we tell people we met online, they are like really? but that's about it.

7 years next month!!!!!!!!
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It's become just another way to meet people. Especially considering the "specialty" sites: Jewish Singles, Pagan Singles, Big & Beautiful Singles and so on and so on.... Makes it more likely to find someone closer to what you're like and able to form a lasting bond with. So go for it.

On the "oh, snap!" side..... 7 years Stuie? It would seem there really are women that desperate!

(That was a joke people....)

'Rani
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[quote name='Kathrynx' timestamp='1333644923' post='544109']
When people ask where you met, just tell them the location of your first date. Its no biggie lol.
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We met in the cab of my pickup..? no that doesnt really work.
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its not a bad thing i have some close friends that met online and they love it and so far they are all happy, my dad i think is addicted to that shit haha hes been doing it for years and loves it he gets a new women for like 3 months then the next then the next hahaha weird but some people get happy go lucky people that are just looking for fun
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one time i met this chick online when i was a kid, and she promised grape drinks and candy if i came over. due to legal reasons, i cannot discuss it anymore........




but seriously, i don't think there should be a social stigma. hell, there are people on here that meet up and hang out/talk all the time that haven't met in person. i know i would play xbox live and chat on tc with anyone on here.
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[quote name='IainUM' timestamp='1333719601' post='544186']
one time i met this chick online when i was a kid, and she promised grape drinks and candy if i came over. due to legal reasons, i cannot discuss it anymore........


but seriously, i don't think there should be a social stigma. hell, there are people on here that meet up and hang out/talk all the time that haven't met in person. i know i would play xbox live and chat on tc with anyone on here.
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I met Iain online and he hasn't stopped stalking me since! Be careful who you talk to on the Internet, people!

:lol:

Nah, I don't see a problem with it, as long you use some common sense and be safe- Look for warning signs of the person lying to you, and don't meet in a private place right off the bat, just to name two things. Use Skype to see each others' faces before you see each other in person (this avoids the whole fake picture deal).

Just play it safe and use your brain. ;)
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I'm currently involved with a lass I met online, it wasn't a dating site and wasn't really even intended to develop into romance but there you have it. The internet is a tool, don't pay attention to the stigma attached. Be wise, be yourself, be everything you would in person anyhow from the get go and I think you'll have little to worry about. No reason [i]not[/i] to use the tools at hand right? Chris has some good advice above me.

There's a bit of a strange dynamic that comes into play because you just don't know if the chemistry will be there in person, but it's part of this new-fangled cyber-romance stuff I suppose. No risk, no reward.
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I've met my last two boyfriends online, both via OKCupid. The last one I was with for about 6 months, and this one I've been with for about 7-8, and we're moving in together in June.
You have to be willing to deal with a lot of bullshit and craziness and lame/bad dates to find a gem... kind of like any other sort of dating.
The great part is, you kind of get to sift through people before you spend any time or money on them. If X (them being a smoker/vegan/hardcore Buddhist/anarchist/cat-lover/etc.) is an absolute dealbreaker, you can usually find that out via their profile before you spend a few hours of your time and a few bills out of your wallet to find it out...
That being said, give people on your "maybe" list a shot. I didn't think I would ever date a (cigarette) smoker, but here I am. It wasn't a 100% dealbreaker for me, just kind of a bummer. Needless to say, glad I gave him a chance.

The flipside of that vetting process is, yes, people will exaggerate in their profiles, especially when it comes to their looks. I went on a date with a dude who claimed to be 5'9" (a few inches taller than I am) and ended up being maybe 5'5" (a few inches shorter than I am). Shortness isn't a dealbreaker for me, but needlessly adding 4" to your height is.
My boyfriend went on a date with another girl before he met me from OKC who used completely fake photos, I think of one of her friends. She said she didn't think people would ask her to meet up if she used her real photos, but she certainly didn't get a second date by using fake ones.

I've never had anyone say anything negative to me when I tell people my boyfriend and I met online. Most people either talk about their friend/cousin/etc. who met their SO online or say something like "that's so cool, I have/haven't had luck with that sort of thing". People really don't see it as being too strange now. I thought my parents would find it a little weird, mostly because of the whole "stranger danger" aspect of it, but they too were fine.

Just meet in a public place, tell someone where you're going, etc... same rules as meeting up with anybody else for the first time.
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