What would you do?

[OPR234]

That sucks how people refuse to believe that hookahs arent for illegal drugs. I can understand how people might think that as a first impression, but after refusing to believe it's honest and legitimate use is just foolish.

In your situation, you did nothing wrong. The only way to correct it that I could see is talk to the father, set up a meeting with the mother, apologize first, then explain to her your side of the story of how you thought her son understood that its not a bad thing. If she will listen, tell her about the hookah culture and that its unpractical to smoke drugs from them in the first place (you may want to word it differently, you don't want to give the impression that you know a lot about using drugs). Then, if its necessary, talk to the son about it too.

[Lakemonster]

So Lake, did you lose that friend over this? He isn't refusing to ever see you again right? Or is he just complaining about your hookah usage?

I dont suppose I have lost him as a friend, but its a little more strained. I now feel that I have to spend time with him "on his terms" in some ways. That may be a misguided thought, tho. He hasnt complained about me smoking hookah, just that he doesnt want it around his son at his house.... or around his son at all, perhaps.

He's all for me coming out to his house. I get invited out there bout evrey other weekend. He/They have decided not to come out to my house at all since then.

Anyway. the idea behind this thread is that I may confront him about the discomfort he has about coming out here. I believe in being forthwith and frank with the people I call my friends....... I was wondering where I was at in the whole thing.... I need to see if there is a real fault of my own that I need to be ready to address head on. Sometimes we can jade ourselves when we develope our perspectives.... so I wanted to run the scenario past others and make sure I was kidding myself somewehre along the line. I need to understand where I deserve my licks, instead of trying to dodge blame that is justified.

Theres three sides to every story... I really need for him to share his with me openly.