jerjer72 Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 (edited) ------------------------------------------------------------------------****************Closing The Topic****************------------------------------------------------------------------------THANKS EVERYONE for all of your advice I really appreciate all of it. ------------------------------------------------------------------------Mushrat or whichever mod wants to close this post can. Also thanks to the mods for their support.If this topic can be deleted or whatever that works. Thanks. I think I am doing better now somewhat.. not entirely but somewhat. If I need more help I will come to you guys.Once again thanks. Edited April 10, 2007 by jerjer72 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny_D Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 I'm sorry to say that you are learning a hard lesson in friendship. This girl treats you like a chump. You need to make some hard decisisons. One of which would be to cut your losses and run.She wants to date her internet friends? Well then that should speak volumes. Move on jerjer72. you will be much better for it.JD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhitzEnd Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 +1 to the above...she obviously does not care for you or for any life other than her own...friends are a dime a dozen...even a best friend...Screw her and find another... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evlspcmk Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 man it sounds like you need Dr Phill on this one...my advice would be take the bird and just sell it so you get your grand back and she gets nothing and with the extra money go out and get some new friends.Or as i would do is train the bird to say "Ashleys a Bitch" and just give it to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerjer72 Posted March 16, 2007 Author Share Posted March 16, 2007 (edited) --- Edited April 10, 2007 by jerjer72 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oggie505 Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Man, too many words for me to read Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerjer72 Posted March 16, 2007 Author Share Posted March 16, 2007 (edited) QUOTE (Oggie505 @ Mar 16 2007, 03:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Man, too many words for me to read I'm sorry. I knew I wrote too much... I guess when she calls me "Emo" when I show the slightest emotion she is being true. I think she is heartless. I told her I still loved her and she called me emo.. then when she told me she still felt the same way I didn't say anything mean back.. wth... She really shows that she still likes me doesn't she... Edited March 16, 2007 by jerjer72 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny_D Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 I'm sorry to be blunt :-But the girls sounds like a slag. Nasty and cheap.Do yourself a favour. Forget the bird (feather variety) Forget the money.Consider it a lesson hard learnt. Most of us older chaps have been their and learnt it. The hard way.You will be better for it in the long run. Your amoungst friends here!JD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yashman19 Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Moved the the appropriate section. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerjer72 Posted March 16, 2007 Author Share Posted March 16, 2007 (edited) I feel like an idiot for posting this now. I guess I just let my emotions take over. Sorry everyone if I spewed on too much. I guess I just couldn't handle how I felt. I will figure out what to do about it. Thanks for the help. I was about to ask her to marry me on her 20th birthday which was on Valentine's Day so as you can probably tell she really did mean a lot to me. That's why I made it seem like such a huge deal. Once again sorry for ranting on about my problems. I should just handle my problems on my own. Edited March 16, 2007 by jerjer72 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny_D Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 QUOTE (jerjer72 @ Mar 16 2007, 10:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>I feel like an idiot for posting this now. I guess I just let my emotions take over. Sorry everyone if I spewed on too much. I guess I just couldn't handle how I felt. I will figure out what to do about it. Thanks for the help. I was about to ask her to marry me on her 20th birthday which was on Valentine's Day so as you can probably tell she really did mean a lot to me. That's why I made it seem like such a huge deal. Once again sorry for ranting on about my problems. I should just handle my problems on my own.No hold on... You can post what you like and you shouldn't feel bad about it either. You asked for some opinions on a subject matter closeto your heart. And I hope you got some opinions from it.Welcome to the community!JD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lakemonster Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Looks like you are in the process of dodging a bullet.Keep the bird if you like..... or sell it, but I personally think it would be irresponsible for her to have it given her past approach to animal care.Look, you got burned.... but at least you found out about her fickle heartedness early... and not after wedding vows. Celebrate that fact. You got very, very lucky.As heartless as it sounds.... I wouldnt spend much time lamenting what you see as a loss. In fact.... its not so much of a loss.... you made an emotional investment.... she didnt. She's just a like a disease to you.My suggestion to you is to hit some clubs or the like and make a set of friends. Dont wait doing it either. Go out, have drinks... have some cheap, meaningless sex. ( or something)Make that chick a brief historical entry in otherwise numerous pages of a happy life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allia22 Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 +1, you need some rebound action This was your first relationship, right? If it is, then you'll definitely learn the most from this one, if it's any consolation. I almost married my ex after going out 2 years. Well, in retrospect I view the time spent with him as a nightmare. It's a house rule to never utter his name around me. He was a total creep, psychological and physical abuse abound. He tried picking up communication with me about 2 years ago and I went along with it for a while. He kept talking about how we should meet up somewhere, which I ignored... until he mentioned he had a girlfriend. I bitched him out for even attempting to treat that poor girl like he treated me and haven't talked to him since. You'll learn from this, if you let yourself. But seriously, find a new job AWAY FROM HER. It may be rough, but you have to do it to get away from her. If you're around her for any reason, you can't heal! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scheetz Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Anyone have cliff notes??From what I can tell, ditch the bitch. Sell whatever this bird is that I saw in some responses. And, umm I need cliff notes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ioannisds Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Mother of God. I hate drama. What JD, Lake, and the others said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hookahmike Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 (edited) Dr. Mike's thoughts 1. You MUST cut ALL ties W/ HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This means:A. Sell bird (reminder of bittersweet past, and a tie) Find somewhere and sell it for what you can. Figure any money is better than what you are doing now (hell + bird Maint :mad: )B. GET OUT OF THERE ASAP!!! (IF not you better give us a DANM GOOD, Coherent REASON WHY )C. This goes w/ B. This other PERSON DOES NOT EXIST!!! (YOU must be STRONG ) so you must change your locale ASAP.You are not the 1st that this has happened to, and you wont be the last. You HAVE to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and MOVE ON. You've heard about others that have done it - YOU CAN TOO! We have faith in YOU (until you prove us otherwise )Get to WORK! & Start planning your future NOW (Job hunting in a warmer climate cant hurt to cheer you up either )Good luck & KEEP UP POSTED on YOUR progress!!!!!YOU CAN & WILL DO IT!!!QUOTE (ioannisds @ Mar 16 2007, 05:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>Mother of God. I hate drama. What JD, Lake, and the others said. Edited March 17, 2007 by hookahmike Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maxy3546 Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 (edited) Prescription: tall glass of beer, one excellently packed bowl of shisha, one bathtub (full), CD (favorite variety), combine and relax. then think everything through when you've chilled out a bit. Edited March 17, 2007 by maxy3546 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cypherkk Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 cliff notes:Girl meets guy.Guy gets emotionally involved.Long friendships, then financial commitment to eachother. 2000 dollar pet.Girl doesn't help with communal investment.Girl gets stupid (or already was)Bails on guy.Girl comes over, guy gives in, trying not to give in on love.Girl lets guys other pet (dog) out in 0 degree weather.Guy cannot find dogdog follows girl to housegirl does not let dog in, does not tell guy dog at houseGuy phones girl, finds out has pet at house... girl acts devoid of emotion for guy or animals.guy gets dog back, maybe ok, was not feeling wellguy wants to know what to do about relationship and general attitude of heartless (typical) girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lazria Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Dude, I hope you got the guts to do what you know has to be done. The old saying, "With friends like that, who needs enemies!" fully applies to that little piece of *&%@#).Been there, done that - I wasn't dating my supposed Best Friend, but she still turned on me like a raccoon with rabies.Women can be bitches (and hey, I can say that becasue I AM A women ). Cur her lose, move on. Either keep the bird or sell it, you should be able to make up some of the money. Don't talk with her, don't assoicate with her, don't even think of her. You've learned a valable life lesson - take it heart and remember it next time.And just so you know, there are gurls who like "emotional" guys, she's just a dumb ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zerodynamic Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 jerjer, that hella sucks. For one, you aren't a loser. A loser wouldn't go out of his way and ask for advice. A loser would however, try and hold onto this woman.For a brief synopsis, pretty much what everyone said is right. Like Mike said, you have to cut ties with this chick. You obviously misinterpeted how much she likes you, as you said you were going to ask her to marry you. Therefore, like Lake said, you dodged a bullet. Think about it, if she's acting this way now... whats to say when you pursue her and invest more time/money into her she won't do this again??? Sell the parrot to a.... uh... parrot enthusiast? I dunno, but that parrot is representative of a shared collaberation between you and ashley, so you must get rid of it.I know this sucks, but all wounds will heal in time. And if you wanna speed up that process, take a page from my book and call in the reinforcements----for payback. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hamilton Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 (edited) shit, just fucking ditch her homie it aint worth the pain. Get your money, collect son and get the fuck out of my kitchen. thats my families way of saying "Get her out of your life" she sounds worthless.Yeah i know, its hard to believe someone so deeply involved in your life could possibly turn out so worthless. But it happens and its time to cut your losses. It aint worth the pain or strain to keep up the relationship. Sell the bird, or take it for yourself. Keep her away from your dog and more importantly, keep her out of your life.As he said, all wounds heal in time and when things are fucked up, they heal a lot quicker. Within 2 months you'll be feeling free as a bird... Edited March 18, 2007 by Hamilton Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sambookamax Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 QUOTE (Johnny_D @ Mar 16 2007, 05:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>I'm sorry to be blunt :-But the girls sounds like a slag. Nasty and cheap.Do yourself a favour. Forget the bird (feather variety) Forget the money.Consider it a lesson hard learnt. Most of us older chaps have been their and learnt it. The hard way.You will be better for it in the long run. Your amoungst friends here!JDBig +1 on thisBlunt is what you need! Lose this bitch, and find yourself a new one...forget the money, forget the bird...forget the bitch! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerjer72 Posted March 19, 2007 Author Share Posted March 19, 2007 (edited) --- Edited April 10, 2007 by jerjer72 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allia22 Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Good job on being strong!Ok, chances are if I got WoW or something of the like, I would probably NEVER turn it off until I had to go to school or work (I work only 2 days a week too), and if I were away from the comp that it would be pretty much all I could think about. You found a gamer, is all. My friend had to break up with her bf (her first real one too), she claims WoW tore them apart. I say he was a jerk anyway, but she isn't being strong at all and is still pretty much wrapped around his little finger, despite the fact EVERYONE tells her to break it off for good. She's been in misery like this for about a year now, and it causes me a lot of pain to sit idly while she keeps hurting herself like this.And look at me, I'm a total attention whore, whether I mean to be or not. I just really like hookah, and it just so happens the vast majority of the people on the forum are guys. When I'm in school I get a ton of attention just because I'm one of the few chicks in the transportation section. Granted I don't do what I consider flirting to ANY of them, because I hate playing with peoples' emotions. However, I've been told by more than one guy that the simple act of talking to a guy equals flirting, which sucks donkey dick. But yeah, she's a jerk, keep going. And seriously, FIND A DIFFERENT JOB, AWAY FROM HER. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sicklecow Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Sell the bird. If she gives you shit, tell her to get bent. If she pushes it, give her 20 bucks and tell her that you sold the bird for 40. Spend a bit on your dog, get your mom something nice for having your back, and meet some new folks.Do you really want to stay connected to someone who falls in love with a screenname in a video game? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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